7 Steps for a happier you this Valentine’s Day!

Valentine’s Day is here, and many people are still wondering what the hype and hoopla is all about.If you think Valentine’s Day is largely associated with teenagers, think again! We have 7 ways for you to think outside the chocolate box and show a little love to the most important person in your life- YOU! The most important part of this exercise is that you make it last long past when the red-and-white heart decorations have been packed away.

  1. Think about your daily life- Evaluate what really makes you feel good. Instead of forcing yourself into things that you don’t really enjoy, do more of the things that make you feel good. If you don’t enjoy your job, work out on an exit plan. There is no reason why you should continue to force yourself into the things that don’t make you happy.
  2. Cut your To –Do List by half-Look at your to-do list, is it pages long? Does it make you feel good or you constantly lose your cool over it? Take a long, hard look at your list,fold it into half. and then tear the list at the middle line. Prioritise one half and then prirotise other, pare it down by 50%. Focus only on have-tos and want-tos instead of things you have on there just because you should. When your list feels manageable, you’ll feel more energized to tackle it.
  3. Pampering is part of your routine- Pamper yourself on a regular basis. Your Hair appointment, mani,pedi are not a luxury, they are a necessity! There is nothing wrong with taking the time to take care of yourself on a regular basis, whether that means a bi-monthly massage appointment or working in the time for a long, hot bubble bath several nights a week. Feeling good shouldn’t be a “treat”—it should be a part of your everyday life.
  4. Weed out people- Too often, we get ourselves tangled into people and their lives which are not really contributing anything enriching to our own life.Distance those obnoxious influences who make you feel bad, even if its family. If you can’t, teach yourself ways in which you would avoid getting affected with what they say or do.Toxic relationships can be a huge barrier to your happiness Do yourself a favor and start investing your time with the people who make you feel good and make your life better.
  5. Raise your voice, and be confident about it- You have really worked hard like every other person. You are experienced and have your own qualities that stand you apart from others.When you aren’t true to yourself and your opinions, it feels bad. You feel disingenuous and dishonest. It is perfectly okay to have your own opinions—in fact, that’s what makes each of us so great! The best thing you can do for yourself is to own those opinions proudly. They may not always be popular, but they are a part of who you are—and those in your life who love and respect you will be okay with that.
  6. Be your own Queen- If you are constantly letting others in your life make the decisions, its time to stop. Quit deferring to others to make them happy. Stand up for the things you want and speak up for yourself. Tonight , you decide whats cooking for dinner.Watch the movie that you want to watch.It is great to compromise some of the time, but when you are constantly putting your own wants and needs aside for the sake of others, you will be unhappy and dissatisfied in the long run.Learn a new skill, join a support group that cares for you, start a new venture, anything that gives you happiness!
  7. Hug and love yourself-  Mark some one-on-one time for yourself. Set a date and day when you will go out and do things you always wanted to do. Spending some me time, doing things that you enjoy is a great way to recharge your batteries.

Investing in your relationship with yourself is just as important as investing in the relationships you have with others—you’ll be able to come back to those relationships happier and recharged.Make loving yourself a year-round commitment, not just an effort you make only on special occasions. You’ll find yourself happier, healthier, and more fulfilled the whole year through.

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Why new year resolutions fail

Did you just realise that the first month of the new year 2017 just flew by ? That is 31 days, and about 10% of this year is already flown out of the window.

Sure, when it was December you were feeling that you will change this or that about everything.Like everyone else, you decided to come up with a list of Resolutions for a brand new year.

You were full of enthusiasm and excitement because you told yourself that this year it’s going to be different.

Well, really, has it been any different? You are still firefighting, the moment the exuberance of getting a chance to restart your life waned down, you suddenly realised that nothing has really changed.

In actuality, making resolutions is not a bad thing. The problem usually comes from the lack of motivation and accountability that inevitably follows this period of excitement. You have to transform your enthusiasm into concrete and sustainable plan.

According to the American Medical Association (AMA), some 40-50% of people  in America  follow this  yearly tradition, but only 10-15% of these people will eventually succeed in reaching their goals.  So where do we come up short? The answer is simple. We don’t have a plan and therefore we focus on the wrong things.

To change your resolutions into success you need to have some accountability .

Something simple and basic common sense, similar to diet programs. Why do you think they suggest a daily log of your food and exercise, and regular meeting with your dietition? Its not so uch that you will learn anything new (although that is part of it ) about your own body mechanism, but most of the benefit from all this comes from the support and accountability that you will get from it all.

So where does Ms accountability live? There are many places. Rope in your friends and family. Tell as many people as you can. Actually tell people who will be supportive and hold you to realistic expectations. Not plastering on social media.

Jot down a plan to accomplish your goal. List the steps. If you are not sure where to start, think about hiring a Life Coach or a professional. Join a support group. Just make sure there is a measure of accountability.

If you have a goal in mind, start right away. Don’t wait until the end of the year. Just start! Why wait until the end of the year? It’s very seldom that conditions will be perfect. So go ahead and take that step.

The new year does not hold the answers, but you do. The real question is, are you ready to embrace change? Think about it. You’ve been stuck in a dead end job, or you’ve wanted to start a new venture. Or maybe you want to lose weight . What is that worth? If your resolution has been on your mind for awhile, don’t you owe it to yourself act on it?

Don’t get caught up in the trap. Start hunting for better opportunities, join networks like QWEEN. Get rid of the junk food in your house .Action brings results. Start now. Not tomorrow. Not tonight. But now! You’ve thought about it and talked about it. The only thing that is stopping you is you.

If you take nothing else away from this article but this one thing, I hope that it’s that there is never a perfect time except right now to start acting on your goals.

Take the first step!

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Manage your inner critic

Save yourself from getting hijacked by negative thoughts!

Whether we realize and acknowledge it or not,most of us are reasonably doing well in our lives. Despite the struggles and problems that we face, all women know how to find their way out and are giving their best in all circumstances. But most of us have a few negative “sound-tracks” playing in our heads in background.

So when someone compliments us, instead of feeling happy and recharged, we hear in our mind “ i am not that good” “I’m not doing that well/I didn’t do that well”  “Other people are judging me poorly”

These negative thoughts are like your own Evil DJ, playing the negative soundtracks in a loop!

Slowly, we lose confidence in our own abilities, and the seemingly easy tasks suddenly feel impossible to do, and also come with their own negative thoughts, self doubt and hopelessness.

Next time, you have negative thoughts playing in the background of your mind, try these simple tricks-

  1. Use a Show Stopper- The moment you start feeling negative- use a prop to stop the drama! It could be a poster, a motivational thought, a talk with a friend who wont put you down, or a picture of you achieving something-like maybe trekking up a mountain! Stop the background negative music using a show stopper and ask yourself-

Am I stuck in my head right now?

Is there any evidence to support these thoughts?

  1. Ask When You Think About the Past

When something doesn’t go as well as you hoped, don’t waste time repeatedly criticizing yourself or dwelling on what went wrong.

It’s important to avoid lingering regret. Research shows that, if you only focus on regret and self-blame, you are more likely to perform worse in a similar situation in future.

Instead, create a problem-solving and growth mindset by asking yourself questions about what other, additional actions you could have taken to improve the outcome. Try to ask open-ended questions, especially those beginning with ‘What’ or ‘How’. This is called ‘counterfactual’ thinking.

  1. Be your own favourite and your own best friend!

Okay, so you just lost an assignment or an opportunity to competition. The next thing that you do is go in the brooding mode, tell everyone to lay off till you feel better, keep thinking about it, and tell everyone from maid to the stranger in coffee shop how bad you are. Relax, drama queen! Tell yourself to snap out of it. Treat yourself with some respect and same friendliness that you would an old friend. Love your grit, ability to do so much, and appreciate the fact that you are still able to do it.

Remember that your thoughts are not always the facts, and sometimes, it helps to keep out the noise and keep doing what you are good at. Sooner or later, the results will show, and you will be in a position to have happy tunes playing up in your head!So instead of becoming a drama queen, be a QWEEN!

 

Resources-

Full Potential Labs Inc.

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Diet Pointers for Pre-Marathon Week

I’m sure many of you pretty ladies would be all set to run the Standard Chartered Marathon. With just 2 days to go, there would be adrenaline rush at the thought of visualizing yourself at the start line. Your race day gear must have been sorted out and coordinated, from the sports tee, to the capris, to the running shoes, all the way down to that sweat-wicking pair of socks and a cap to match! You seem to be race ready, well…almost.

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Five things to see before you chose a spalon

This is a new term coined by a friend who runs an amazing salon. She likes to call it a combination of spa and salon, not your typical run of the mill beauty parlours or massage centres claiming to be the next big thing to spoil you silly.

So how do you know which one fits right for you? Here are 5 ticks that you should mark before choosing one, just walk in and observe for half an hour.
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Be Positive – Always!

Every day, we fight battles- some large, some trivial. Some that we win, and in some we face defeat. Constant struggles, letdowns, heartbreaks, make us bitter, negative and resentful. Look at people around you, at least 7 in 10 people will be stressed about one or the other issue. All this is not only bad for our health, but also causes issues with relationships.

How to keep your chin up in day to day life?
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Get -set –go!!! Start your tomorrow’s workout, today!

In every group meeting, you can find women discussing about health, nutrition, workouts and fitness over meals. While eating a samosa and drinking latte coffee laden with two pouches of sugar, (brown , of course) people lament and indulge in self pity how they are unable to find time and energy to start the workout to get back in shape.

Everyone points to their “problem areas” –pinching flabby arms, thighs, tummies and saying “this should go”.In comes a sudden crisis. You are diagnosed with borderline diabetic tendencies, or your cholesterol levels are dangerously high, or there is a wedding in the family and you have to look “slim”. Suddenly, your attitude changes, you find time to workout, cut down on foods that are unhealthy, chalk out a diet plan, buy those new expensive shoes, maybe a few color coordinated dresses and hit the gym with a vengeance.
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Diet guidelines for people on the move.

Whether you’re a professional, an entrepreneur or a homemaker, travel finds a place in our scheme of things at some point of time or the other. It may assume the form of an official trip or just a fun vacation.

In this day and age when a big chunk of our urban population is quite conscious of the benefits of good health and fitness, they get anxious about messing up the healthy diet regime while embarking on the leisure/work-related trip.

The dilemma- ‘To eat or not to eat’. And if one has to eat, what to eat so that the trip doesn’t end up in a diet disaster, backpedaling all the effort towards a healthy diet.
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